Who Should Make the First Move?

Hey guys!

So I've noticed this popping up a lot lately, but a lot of my friends think that guys should make the first move. And I've also noticed that we put a lot of importance into gender roles, but all we ever really study when it comes to that is how females were treated unfairly. And yes, I know we have been and we continue to be treated unfairly, but that doesn't mean that men have to be the bad guys or that they have to be a certain way. I mean isn't the point of gender equality to be that both sexes are treated the same way and that there shouldn't be role the guy or girl has to do? And I'll admit, I think some things are more male orientated, and I wouldn't a gentleman, but just cause the guy is a guy doesn't mean he has to be a certain way.

So we all live in a world where ideally the guy will ask the girl out, but we are in a world where females are strong and independent. Do we really need the guy to make the first move? Yes, rejection can hurt and it's hard cause we need a lot of confidence to do it, but come on, guys go through the same things we do. Just because they are guys doesn't mean that they have all the confidence in the world. They are as afraid of rejection as we are, when it comes down to it, we are all human, which means that we are subject to the same emotions and a lot of the same personal and mental problems we face from day to day. A guy can be shy or confident just like any girl can be and vice versa. The guy also gos through questions like "what if she's no into me?" "what if I look like an idiot?" and a lot of other questions that we ask ourselves too. And you might think that guys don't care as much as we do when it comes to crushing on girls, but they do, and they also talk to their friends about it like we do. Just because they are guys doesn't make them any different, other than the fact that they think they have to at cool about it.

At the end of the day we all have our set of insecurities and being of one gender or another really doesn't mean you have to be a certain way. We should be looked at in equal ways in a lot of regards and that is no different with things when it comes to liking someone. Everything we girls go through, guys go through it too, we express it in different ways, but it doesn't mean it's not happening.

Sorry guys, I just had to get that off my chest because it's been bugging me a little that people think that being a guy means that they have to "grow a pair" and do certain things, cause at the end of the day we can also grow a pair and get something done if we really wanted to.

-J